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Guest Post: The Joys or Lack Thereof in Potty Training

Guest Post: The Joys or Lack Thereof in Potty Training by Crystal Reagan

The hot topic of most parenting boards that I’ve frequented is potty training.  Everybody has their own views, their suggestions and sometimes even their critiques. 

My daughter was potty trained right after her second birthday and the whole process took one whole weekend.  It was easy peasy, nothing to it.  She was potty trained even at night.  I had no idea potty training was that easy.

It’s not.  That was a total fluke.  Or maybe it’s just boys are hardheaded which leads me to my experiences potty training my boys.

I couldn’t and I didn’t.  I know it sounds ridiculous and probably makes me sound like a horrible mother, but I tried everything in the book – to no avail.  No matter what I did for them, I could not get them potty trained.  I gave up and just figured that surely the other kids making fun of them in kindergarten would do the job but thankfully it didn’t have to go that far.

When my oldest son was three and I had totally given up, my then only 2 children stayed the weekend with my parents.  When they came back on Sunday, I couldn’t believe that just 2 days with Nana and my little guy was potty trained.  2 days!  I’d been trying for months to get that kid to go in the toilet and he’s gone for 2 days and he comes back potty trained.

I was and still am totally thankful that somehow my mom got through to him.

So, the last few months I’ve been trying to potty train my youngest son and once again I’ve had absolutely no luck.  No matter what I did, he just didn’t get it.  We tried the shoot and aim method with Cheerios and Goldfish but that didn’t work.  I tried a reward chart but that didn’t work.  I tried time outs for accidents but that didn’t work.  I tried bribing with candy but that didn’t work either.  Once again, nothing worked!  Here I was already a failure with my first son and now I was failing with my second son.

Two weeks ago the husband and I decided to take a weekend away and sent all the children to Nana’s house.  Can you believe that when we picked the children up on Sunday that my youngest was potty trained?  Again, just 2 days with Nana and he came back potty trained.

This all got me thinking.  What if all it takes is someone else doing the training.  My children always act so much better around others than they do with me.  I’m pretty sure my children aren’t the only ones because I’ve heard it before especially after watching someone else’s child.  Maybe it’s the change of scenery or just taking them out of their comfort zone that sparks something inside of them.  I honestly don’t know but I wish I did.  I know there are thousands of parents struggling right now with potty training.  It’s a very aggravating and emotional time for both the parents and the children.

So, I guess I mention all of this to say – try something out of the ordinary.  If you have a family member or friend that is willing to help, take them up on it.  I’m truly amazed at how my two boys went from using 5-6 diapers a day, to only needing a diaper at night in just 2 days.



Crystal Reagan | Professional Mommy Blogger

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  1. by Nikki @ Mommy Factor on February 8, 2011 at 5:29 pm

    I’m still in the process of potty training and find that sometimes you do need to change the “scene” to get your child to pay more attention. Thanks for posting.

  2. by Brandy on February 8, 2011 at 5:54 pm

    Oh my goodness, I feel the pain! My daughter potty trained so easily but my next born was a boy and he didn’t completely potty train until a few months after turning age 4. It was near a nightmare and now my 2 year old son is next in line for potty training, looks like it is going to be a repeat of his brother. LOL Great article!

  3. by Pam on February 8, 2011 at 7:14 pm

    Potty training is often a struggle. I found that we attempted several times before it seemed to stick. Congratulations on finding success. Celebrate and do the potty dance!

  4. by Adam Segal on February 9, 2011 at 9:22 am

    Never hurts to get help from an outside source. All is well that ends well!

  5. by Amy @ Grinning Cheek to Cheek on February 9, 2011 at 9:40 am

    Can your nana borrow my son for the weekend?? He’s two and it seems like he still has NO clue that he even pee’s… He’s deathly afraid of his ‘potty’ and even more afraid of ours. How will I ever train him!
    Good Idea though giving him to someone else… I’ll have to try that. My mom always boasts about how my brother and I were trained about the time or slightly before we turned two. It makes me think that they’re just remembering incorrectly.

  6. by Stacie @ The Divine Miss Mommy on February 10, 2011 at 12:22 am

    Yeah we just had to back off of child # 3. We gave her some space and she gave us the gift of no more diapers!

  7. by Louise on February 10, 2011 at 12:28 pm

    I wish I had a parent to send my son off to to get him potty trained. I think you are right boys are just hard headed. He will not do it.

  8. by candace on August 27, 2011 at 6:02 pm

    Did you ever ask your mom how she potty trained your sons so quickly? My son is 3 yrs. old and will pee in his potty sometimes, but he refuses to poop in there.

  9. by Janet W. on March 3, 2013 at 2:29 am

    Luckily my grandson has no problem with using the potty. I think it’s because we’ve always put him on the big potty instead of using a little potty on the floor.


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